so i've got two thoughts
first being that i keep telling people not to do things, they dont listen to me and then after the fact they realize they should have listened to me w/o acknowledging the fact that i told them not to do it. I mean this has been happening for years. I have a very logical mind and i have a tendency to think things through very thoroughly, so when i am right and they know it, u'd think they'd continue to listen to me about other things BUT they don't.
second thought: i have a friend that says he's not ready for a relationship because he can't stop thinking about his ex but now he keeps posting things about living everyday to the fullest and not living in the past; this really bugs me, he is being so contradicting. he even told one of his friends and i quote "The past is the past, learn from it. Don't live in it" so why doesn't he take his own advice and move on? i mean im not going to sit around and waste any more time on him but it just bugs me that he's telling others to move on but yet it seems as if he hasn't.
yeah so those are my thoughts
Hypocrisy is human nature. It's easy to tell someone else to move on or to encourage them to step outside their comfort zone, because from your perspective you can see a good end, but they can only see how good things once were. In my experience, you can either take a step back and let them figure it out on their own, which most eventually do, and be there for them when they realize their own hypocrisy, or you can call them out on it and make them see what they are doing. The second approach is difficult though, because if you come off sounding like a know-it-all or in any way insulting, your opinion will mean less to them. Life is hard, especially relationships, both intimate and friendly. You're a good person, Sara, and college is a crazy time. You'll learn a lot about yourself and other people and become a stronger and better YOU, surrounding yourself with people you love and who love you in return. That advice being given, my advice to YOU as Sara, not you as someone dealing with other people, is be who you are. Let your uniqueness shine through. Don't get walked on, but don't be arrogant. Balance yourself, pray, trust in God and your friends and family, and know that mistakes happen, but it's how you respond to them and grow from them that matters.
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